Many people are very talented yet feeling unfulfilled. The truth is there is an easy way to turn this around.
But first, we need to understand why we spend our lifetime in studying, working, and doing the best we can, yet we still end up feeling unsatisfied. Sounds like a bad deal, right?
You see, ever since we were children, we had been taught to strive for better, and to be the best we can be.
There is nothing wrong with this notion except the way we were taught is mostly wrong.
Most of us were taught to live a life or have a career based on how others define success.
What we didn’t learn was that the easier way is actually to focus on how to maximise our own authentic strengths and genius. In other words, the journey begins with understanding what is the best in us first.
Without that basic understanding, we will go through our career and life with little direction. Our strengths and our genius are our inner GPS and our own hidden success formula.
Without our own inner GPS, we will end up all over the place and likely waste our potential and then wonder why we are still not performing at our best, being as successful as we should be, and as happy as we should be, no matter how hard we try.
Many of us invest money and time in courses that are next best things but forget to do the most important education in life that is to discover our own hidden treasure, our own genius, and make the most of it.
We are very critical of ourselves, we spend a lot of time consciously or subconsciously in comparing ourselves with others, giving ourselves a hard time why we are not richer, smarter, more popular, successful, loving whatever, we are just never good enough to our own standards. We actually genuinely believe this is a good thing to push ourselves, and if we improve this and that, we can then be good enough and happy.
Therefore, the reason we are not happy is not because we have a bad job, bad boss or any other external factors.
Most of the time, it is simply because we are not satisfied with ourselves, we constantly seek external validation whether it is another promotion, another degree, or another award just like when we were little.
We can go about our life like this for a while, maybe 10, 15, 20 years, we will get exhausted if we keep doing this way, because the truth is that there will always be somebody who is smarter, richer, more popular than us, we can never catch up.
Truly successful and fulfilled people don’t run around trying to be better than others in this crazy rat race. They are self-assured and understand the only work they need to do as long as they are breathing and living on this planet - is to be their best selves.
Research over 300,000 people from Innermetrix shows that the most successful and fulfilled people are very self-aware of their strengths and their own genius, and only focusing on what is best in them and honing on them like you wouldn’t believe. They understand that the key to true success, happiness and fulfilment is to make the most of what they have already got.
Anthony Robins said from very early on in his career, he recognised that he was only good at a few things and he decided that’s all he needs to focus on and to become masterful in them.
Look at people like Richard Branson, you must wonder how could a human being is able to accomplish so much and genuinely enjoy his life.
It is clear that he regularly plays to his strengths, and he is having such a good time in sharing his strengths with the world – his entrepreneurship, his adventurous spirit, his zest, his mentoring and advising talent, these are all his strengths whether behavioural or psychological, and he uses them every day. And he does it through his genius, which is providing people with great and fun experiences in every business he operates in.
We all have a unique set of strengths and our own genius that nobody else has.
So instead of wondering what else we can do to be better than somebody else, let's focus on what we have already got and how we can turn these hidden treasures into mastery and something useful. This is how we can make the most contribution and feel most fulfilled.
If we invest our lifetime on the things that are not our strengths, we are deliberately putting ourselves at the weakest starting point.
Once we understand what our strengths are, it could be a talent we have, it could be the way we think, it could be the way we solve a problem, we are now clear with where we should focus our time and energy on.
Life has this magical starting line.
It’s up to you where you want to start.
I would love to hear your thoughts.